RoseMary Frawley

Obituary of RoseMary Frawley

May 21, 1925 - December 5, 2017

Adored mother, beloved grandmother, trusted friend and child advocate, RoseMary Vaughan Frawley, age 92, passed away peacefully on December 5, surrounded by the love of her eight children, her daughters-in-law and sons- in-law, nineteen grandchildren and her loyal dog, Brady. Born in New York, NY on May 21, 1925, she was the youngest of three children of Andrew and Elizabeth Egan Vaughan. She is predeceased by her loving husband of 66 years, Judge John Frawley and her brothers, Andrew and Luke Vaughan. RoseMary is survived by her devoted eight children and 19 grandchildren: Kevin (Joan): Austin, Taryn, Egan and Robert Frawley; Elizabeth (Smith): Vaughan, and Conor Bagley; Brian (Patty): Teddy Camp; Terence: Andrew Frawley; Rosemary (Sam): Amelia D'Souza; Pegeen: Kara, Maggie, Cailey and Molly Doran; Bernadette (Michael): Ryan, Christopher and Griffin Butterfield; and Ellen (Nico): Ian, Luke and Aidan Vroom.

RoseMary graduated from Cathedral High School and Hunter College. She applied her degree in social work and her passion for children and families to her jobs in the New York Foundling Hospital and the City of New York Department of Welfare. After her marriage to John Frawley in September of 1949, they, along with her mother, Elizabeth, moved to Elmira, NY where she then worked as a social worker for the City of Elmira before her children were born. Before returning to work full time she applied her knowledge and love of antiques to BarbRoe Appraisals and Sales, which she founded with a dear friend. As the children grew she then returned to her child advocacy work assuming the position of the Director of the PAL program, which paired mentors with elementary school age children in need of positive connections with a caring adult. Later, she created the Lunch Buddies Program in Elmira City Schools, which provided a monthly in-school lunch pairing adult “buddies” with children who could benefit from a positive connection. The program expanded to include an intergenerational outing where the children, their buddies and nursing home residents would enjoy an annual picnic.
 
In addition to her career in social work, she was an active volunteer at the soup kitchen of the Elmira Community Kitchen and regularly brought Holy Communion to the residents of Woodbrook Assisted Living Home.

She was an avid reader of The New York Times as well as countless books, which she enjoyed with her book club friends. She was passionate about her Catholic faith, Democratic politics, and the advancement of women and children. RoseMary was also a twice decorated winner of the Elmirathon 5K.

Most of all she loved being with her family keeping in daily contact with her children and enjoying the details of their and her 19 grandchildren’s lives. She travelled countless miles to be with her family never missing celebrating a birthday or attending a Baptism, First Communion, Confirmation, graduation or other special event. Always the center of the party and grateful for every minute, she made everyone she met feel special and connected.

Over the last several years she devoted herself to caring for her husband before he passed away in 2016. The family is grateful for those who helped in caring for their parents making their final days as comfortable and full as possible, including Barbara Hillman, Wendy Voight and Colleen Brewer. The family is also grateful for the many doctors, nurses, physical therapists and aides who cared for her and who became so inspired by her grace, wit and fortitude.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to Catholic Charities, 215 E. Church Street, Elmira NY 14901.

Friends are invited to McInerny Funeral Home, 502 W. Water Street, Elmira, on Sunday, December 10, 2:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at St. Patrick's Church, 604 Park Place, Elmira, Monday, December 11, 2017, 10:00 a.m. Private interment will be in St. Peter & Paul's Cemetery.